Why am I on social media?
If you ask me, I don’t know why I am on Twitter, on Pinterest, on Linkedin and on Facebook.
Am I there because of my blog and website and I need to somehow make people aware of that fact? Probably. Am I there because it looks good to have such accounts? That is true to some extent. Am I there because social medial make me socially engaged? No, they make me feel lonelier, more upset and more isolated. In fact, they frequently make me feel nauseated, too. That is, in the most direct meaning of this word. I do not get how in the age of all information readily available to anybody 24 hours a day anywhere on the globe, the dumbness and lack of education reach such a stunning level.
There was a time at the dawn of social media activity when they were truly social. They were about real friendships and real lives.
“Social” cover for selling anything
It did not take too long for the socializing part to transition into advertising and selling features until social media became mainly about selling whatever: opinions, propaganda, products, brands and trends.
As such, social media are the biggest consumerism promoter ever. Do you see what they have? Do you want to be assumed a decent person? You do? You have to get this immediately then.
Social media will impose trendy pictures, trendy products, trendy people and trendy opinions on you.
Do you agree with that?
I do not.
Consumerism is killing every one of us by taking away the air we breathe and turning it into polluted smog, it is taking away the clean drinking water and causing soil damage, it is making you into somebody who consumes what you never needed and what makes you sick and poor.
Internet selling is based on positive attitude, dumbness and greed. Greed is the biggest driving force of any so-called economic growth.
Is it economic growth or destruction of the planet in reality? If we did not interfere so badly with anything that the Earth has to offer us for free: natural air and water recycling and purification, clean and nutrient-rich soil, natural food that helps us staying fit and healthy, we would be fine. However, everything must be sacrificed for the economic growth which ironically leads us into more and more debt and disasters.
While Facebook wants me to sign up for whatever service or product, I never see what my daughter is up to. She is far away, and the ocean is between us. I did not ever get any attention from the local community where I was residing for more than 8 years, yet, I see people from Australia, Spain, Latvia, China and sometimes Germany liking my posts. I do not ever see what my sister is doing, I do not ever see anything my grandsons are posting, since they are many-hour-flight away, but Facebook will invite me to buy products and services which I do not require, which I am absolutely not interested in and which I do not need or like.
The page I have as a business page, also initially was a Fan page, meaning, if somebody liked what one was doing they could join the supporters of your page.
Facebook makes one pay
I cannot recall now how this page transitioned into a business page. Sounds very proud and exciting? Doesn’t it? Yet, Facebook makes absolutely no distinction between a single person business (hence, they invite me to join my team, which would be I joining me and want to charge the promotion fee for anything I put on that page) and huge businesses which have hundreds of employees and specific media managers and other executives.
They make me compete with Wayfair.com or Artfulhome.com and similar sites that sell art prints while I am selling only originals.
Hey Facebook! I am just one single person, who creates art, does painting, promotes, writes about art and teaches it also, and I need to cook, clean, do daily chores, do medical research and writing to support living, plus, my energy levels are very low because of 5-year long treatments. Every day has only 24 hours, and if I wanted to be successful on Twitter, Instagram or Facebook advertising, I would not only need a lot of money to advertise even giveaways, but also a lot of time.
My taste disagrees with trends
I do not spend hours scrolling through trends or looking for viral videos. They are not trendy for me because my taste often disagrees with them. I disagree with dumbing the population more and using bad and personality destroying products for such purpose. I am against the noise everywhere. You need a break from music, a break from shows that do not teach you anything, that have no content and make no sense, however, they stand out due to bad acting and simply bad screen plays.
Facebook does not represent me as a person correctly and it does not allow me to become socially more involved. If I do not go posting sweet comments on anything, I am practically non-existent.
It is time we turn to critical thinking because the narrow-minded and to more consumption leading and directed positive thinking has caused enough trouble. Enough is enough.
We have to critically sort out the offers we are seeing on each step and stop being sheep to such a huge extent.
Social media pressure
I have come to conclusion that instead of allowing one to be true and honest, social media imposes on us their message. Their message is not always our message. It can be quite contrary, in fact.
So, Facebook when there is going to be time when I see everything so that I can choose whatever I like as opposed to posts that have been directed to me depending on my age, gender and previous likes?
I once clicked on Artfulhome.com image because I was reading about some artist. They would not let me free now. Wherever I go, the Artful home is trying to sell me something. The same about the flight: I booked it already. I booked it a while ago. Wherever I look, Facebook, Twitter, Yahoo mail or any other site, there are Flighthub advertisements. I did not even use the Flighthub.
If I click on a gardening image, the next thing I know, Facebook will only put gardening posts in front of me. If I click on shoes and some cosmetic product: that is all I am going to see for quite a while, until I do not spam that product everywhere.
I have moods, I have good days and bad days, I have curiosity, I have preferences and I have interests, and they do not match the Facebook algorithms. I am a human who is changing, who has personal opinions and, most importantly, who has a very personal taste.
Misleading social media
Twitter sends me trends and trendy tweets, as well as, lies about people who followed me because they did not. That is to cause a counter-reaction and feeling that I am actively using Twitter. I am not. The tweets are all automated and it looks nice in the widget area of my website, that’s all.
Pinterest does the same, they let me know that somebody pinned an image which I never put on any of my boards, Pinterest also has picked out topics for me. Well, Pinterest, don’t do that. I do have my own brain and my own opinions. That is already too much care, way too much care. If I looked at an old barn yesterday, it does not mean I want to look at old barns for the next few years. If I looked up a spinach recipe today, it does not mean I will be eating only spinach for a few months.
Facebook means a lot of wasted time for me. I would click on like when I am seeing a few posts of people who I have never met, but who I know distantly from the blogging community. I would leave a comment here and there if the post makes sense. Well, Facebook will show me posts only created by these people for quite a while, and, no, it will not show me what my daughter has been up to.
I am finding all the social media very superficial, very ignorant because they try to make me feel meaningless. Just compare yourself with influencers! Go ahead, compare!
Well, I am not going to compare me with nobody. I do not care about somebody’s butt or how they try to convince me that they used a 20 buck product for getting rid of their wrinkles when, in fact, they had countless plastic surgeries. I don’t literally care about powders, liquids, pills, gels, creams and other things which are advertised as miraculous. These miracles last only as long as there is a decent research done, and it proves rather the harming, not healing side of such product.
They will make you cry, they will make you sick
Social media should take a huge blame for poisoning and making people sick with bad quality, never tested products because while they do not endorse them, they make one see these products and the fake promises which come with such products.
There is a lot of pressure from the social media. A lot. The pressure wants you to subordinate the main mood and the main tone. If you do not, brace for impact. Why? There are guys who have nothing better to do: they use any chance to attack somebody. I posted once a comment that gluten-free products have absolutely no effect on people who do not have a celiac disease which is 100% scientifically true, yet, much denied fact because they want you to spend more on gluten-free and more processed products and imagine that you feel better. Somebody did not read it; they just noticed the first line and totally attacked me: what was I thinking because people who have celiac disease would be at such a disadvantage, etc. That was not at all what I was saying. They did not read, but they felt they had to attack me. So, it goes. One will understand only what they want to.
Social media and socializing
Do I see social media as a great socializing opportunity? To some extent, it is a place where to advertise. However, it is not a place where to find somebody or something. I want to see all variety of topics, all the multi-faceted life, everything which I might or might not like instead of “topics picked out for me”. Social media, you don’t know me, you do not want to know me and you do not believe I have my own brain which allows me making my own decisions that are based on my own experience, education and preferences.
I wish social media started trusting me instead of limiting my choices and free speech.
P.S. I had written this post already when I accidentally saw an interview with the high-tech insider Jaron Lanier on CNBC. It was about his book: Ten Arguments for Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now. This interview absolutely echoed what I do agree with. Too much advantage taking, definitely!
Link to article about him and his book: https://www.theguardian.com/books/2018/may/30/ten-arguments-deleting-your-social-media-accounts-right-now-jaron-lanier