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Dream vacation … is not happening, how to get over the disappointment

Dream vacation is something I wish you, me, and everybody.

Every human being needs a vacation here and there: from routine, from work, from health problems, from pain and from people who get on our nerves. While I lived in Europe, I practically never had a vacation. Theoretically, every teacher had a very long summer vacation over there, but what do you do for 3 months without any money? That was reality. Salaries were so miserably small that after receiving the vacation pay, usually for almost 3 months at once and paying off debts that one had accumulated over the winter months, there was nothing left. So, the situation is like this: I have now fairly good weather, all kinds of free time and zero money for 3 months or a bit longer until the first salary rolls in. What do you do because you still want to eat and need some basics to survive?

I loved to pick mushrooms, gardening and since early childhood I have been sewing and designing outfits. I was getting up at 5 am, quickly run around the forest to get enough mushrooms for selling on the Riga Central Farmer’s Market, tried to sell them as fast as possible because there was only 1 train going back to where I lived. During these a few hours I also needed to shop for things I was out and then I had to literally run head over heels to catch the train.

If I had some sewing order I would do sewing. If I had somebody interested in private classes, I’d teach also during all summer. I could also do some gardening afterwards to put more food on my table. That was having a vacation, but still working harder than even during the work months.

Once I relocated to Canada I learned that everybody goes on vacation: one time in winter and for 2 weeks in summer. Nice! I mean, 2 weeks is a very short time period to do something meaningful, but still: one probably can catch the breath. Luckily, my husband loves traveling. We tried camping, too, but I find it sometimes scary and sometimes too time-consuming because the sun goes down very fast and after that it is really boring. Darkness. Silence. For night owls like me, that is tough. Sleep runs away, it feels that all insects are straight after me and I also hear some strange steps behind the wall of tent. Not to mention sudden rain, getting lost, not being able to find a decent campground and so on. We usually got products and all camping gear and ended up sleeping over in a motel until we finally gave up the idea about camping without a camper that provides a safe shelter.

Dream vacations happen rarely. There is always something: no time, no money or no health. The last 4 years have been troublesome for me. I would so much love to take a vacation from all pains and health issues. I feel like I totally deserve that.

So, how do you get not upset about some could-be-way-better vacation? How do you get over disappointment that it is not possible again to just leave everything behind and go away for a dream vacation? By making expectations more realistic and down to the Earth. By simply living through the summer and experiencing the best of everything available.

It is a good start not to scroll through social media sites where people share their real or polished up vacations, resorts, beaches, fancy foods, fantastic outfits, extremely exciting foreign cities and far-away lands, best summer destinations what money can get and so on. Keep it simple and enjoy what is within reach.

You might have a very pleasant vacation just a year later.

Secondly, there is something happening locally, too: fairs, food fests, music festivals. If you are a fan of crowds, that is a place to be. What if you are not happy being among lots of people and would rather be on your own? In that case, you could take longer walks, see exhibitions, go to the theatre or some smaller scale musical or art event.

Gardening is the best pass-time for any age, any health condition and any marital status. It comes with an added bonus in a form of freshest veggies possible.

Thirdly, there are plenty of people who are restricted by their health. It can be very tricky to get away when somebody is after surgery or on strong medications. It can be not in your best interest to take a long trip when there are certain life-threatening conditions that require ongoing medical attention.

So, what do you do? Get all crying and in tears because you know you won’t get away? Become angry and nasty because “everybody goes on vacation, only I cannot”? Send sad messages to friends or relatives painting yourself in black mood and feeling like a victim of circumstances? We can certainly do all of the above, and it won’t make us feel one small bit better.

I know that these who wait long enough receive what they are longing for. It might be not the next week or next month, but it will happen. It is true that vacation feels very different at the age of 30 and at the age of 60 or 80. Do you want to wait? Do you feel like it is worth waiting? No, it’s not worth killing oneself about what could have happened, but didn’t because of … all kinds of things. It is not worth trying to figure out why everybody is so lucky and happy and you are not. That is life. Life gives us vacations when it wants, not when we require. With the best case scenario, desires match opportunities.

Well, I always hope that the next year will be better than the previous one. I am going, though, to see my mom, my daughter, my sister and my grandchildren, as well as friends at the end of August. The weather is not going to be splendid in Latvia around that time, it never is, but the best part is meeting people who I love at least once a year. If you have somebody who you haven’t seen for ages, maybe it is a good time to go and pay a visit?

Finally, there are hundreds of great things that don’t require any extra huge spending.

There are numerous new books which wait to be read.

Sketchbook invites to add something new. Maybe you are in coloring? Fashion designing? Maybe make something new for yourself or your home? Maybe spend much more time with your closest ones? It sometimes feels everything else comes first and our direct family can wait. It should be straight the opposite: we have to make many other things wait in order to give our best part to the family. I hope you have a nice summer!

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  1. Those are beautiful photos, Inese, especially the double rainbow. Enjoy time with family in Latvia in August. Time passes so quickly, and I am glad you will get to see them again.

    I like your thoughts on “Life gives us vacations when it wants, not when we require.” It does seem so true!

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    July 1, 2017
    • Thanks! Latvia is a very nice place to go. Daughter said the weather hasn’t been good so far, but maybe August/September will be slightly better. Life presents some stuff which we don’t want to neither accept, nor experience. I hope life has been good to you this summer!

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      July 1, 2017
  2. Did you have your dream vacation in Latvia!? Maybe you are still in Latvia!?

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    September 4, 2017
    • Well, while I lived in Latvia, I had to only work. That was a very different time from what it is now. We could not travel abroad, but there was still the Soviet Union.
      I learned that life doesn’t have to consist only of work when I relocated to Canada. That was many years ago, and we have traveled both Americas and Mexico since. We travelled a lot until my health gave a glitch.
      I go to see my mom, my daughter, my grandchildren and my sister’s family in Latvia practically every year. I arrived a few weeks ago and I’m going back on September 19. The weather is really problematic. I still hope there might be some sunny days.

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      September 4, 2017
      • The weather is terible! I know! Actually we didn’t had summer at all! And I know those Sovet Union times too from stories! Have a nice time meeting family here in Latvia!

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        September 4, 2017
      • Thanks, Ilze! It is a bit boring because we cannot do some stuff which we intended to, but it is certainly ok. It’s a huge pleasure to talk to the loved ones in person.

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        September 4, 2017
      • I’m curious, do you still speak latvian?

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        September 4, 2017
      • I sure do. It’s my native language, and I am writing poetry, stories, scientific articles, medical reviews in Latvian, I’ve been among the best medical writers and translators for about 35 years. I speak also German at the same level, and I have not forgotten Russian, as well. My first University degree was in German language and literature, so, no problem with it. It’s just so that I don’t feel I want to switch over keyboard all the time, etc. Plus, these blogs are mostly for English speaking audience. That certainly doesn’t mean Latvians are not welcome. Straight the opposite. It’s surprising how many Latvians are blogging, but it seems only a few share something or follow other blogs. It seems they have sort of alone-standing blogs because there is no interaction. Strange.

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        September 4, 2017

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